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Topics: After age 40 pregnancy, kids after 40, No IVF Pregnancy Story

Pregnancy after 40 (naturally) with Ch-a Mosley

Ever felt like you’re running out of time to figure it all out—partner, kids, purpose… all of it?

This is your moment to pause the panic and rewrite the rules. Because if you’ve ever felt the clock ticking, the pressure to “hurry up,” or the weight of everyone else’s timeline—this conversation will set you free.

I sit down with Ch-a Mosley—founder of Pregnancy Over 40, who conceived naturally at 46 and delivered at 47—to unpack what no one tells you about fertility, aging, and trusting YOUR timeline.

If you’ve felt behind, uncertain about motherhood, or overwhelmed by the “kids question,” Ch-a’s story will give you real clarity.

From a breakup at 39 and no IVF plan… to natural conception, motherhood at nearly 50, and building a brand around rewriting what’s possible for women—she proves that timelines are made to be challenged.

Listen in and discover:

Challenge the Clock: Why the “too late” narrative is outdated—and how to stop letting fear take over
Talk to Your Doctor (for real): The fertility conversations most OBs aren’t initiating—but you can.
Redefine Motherhood: What it’s actually like being a mom over 40—and the surprising joys and strengths that come

This is the episode I wish I heard in my twenties—but it’s just as life-changing at 30, 40, or 50.

TIMESTAMPS

00:58 – Fertility Fear & The Pressure to Have Kids Before 40
02:20 – Why I Gave Up on Having a Family—Then Got Pregnant at 46
05:18 – No IVF, No Timeline: How I Let Go and Still Conceived Naturally
10:45 – What Your OB Isn’t Telling You About Fertility
14:00 – The Truth About Energy and Motherhood After 40

🎧 Listen for perspective, calm and courage.

ABOUT CH-A MOSLEY
Ch-a is the founder of the Pregnancy Over 40 community. She conceived naturally at 46 and delivered her baby girl at 47. Ch-a is now a speaker and influencer sharing inspiration for women seeking more support and transparency on fertility.

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The Trap of Being “Too Late”

We’ve all absorbed the message in one way or another: If you don’t have kids by 35, good luck. This belief doesn’t just influence when (or if) we start a family. It seeps into how we date, how we judge our choices, and even how we talk to doctors.

But what if that belief is outdated? What if after 40 age pregnancy wasn’t an exception, but a story we simply don’t hear enough of?

A No IVF Pregnancy Story That Rewrites the Rules

This episode features Ch-a Mosley, founder of Pregnancy Over 40, whose story flips everything we’ve been taught. She conceived naturally at 45. Delivered at 47. No IVF. No freezing. No panic.

“I conceived naturally at 45. No IVF, no treatments—just trust and timing.”

For anyone navigating fertility questions, this isn’t just hopeful—it’s paradigm shifting. Because what Ch-a models isn’t just the possibility of pregnancy over 40. It’s the freedom of living life on your own terms, even while the world tells you to speed up.

What Doctors Aren’t Saying (But Should Be)

Here’s the part that made me pause:

Ch-a realized that throughout her thirties, none of her doctors asked about her fertility goals.

“Your OB won’t always bring up fertility—so you better start the conversation yourself.”

If you’re thinking about kids after 40, or even just want to keep your options open, this is a wake-up call. We’re often handed birth control without being handed information. And most women don’t know what questions to ask until it feels urgent.

This episode is your permission to stop waiting for permission.

Get your hormone levels checked. Ask about your AMH. Find a doctor who actually listens.

Fertility isn’t a crisis to solve—it’s a relationship with your body that you can start building now.

Letting Go of Timelines (After 40 Pregnancy)

One of the most powerful moments in this conversation was when Ch-a described meeting her partner at 44. Two weeks later, she wrote in her journal: This is the year I meet my man.

Spoiler: she did.

And not only that—she became pregnant naturally without ever trying to force it.

“We said it from the beginning—if a baby comes, it comes. No interventions, no stress, just trust.”

This isn’t a story about rejecting IVF—it’s about choosing alignment.
It’s about honoring the kind of motherhood, relationship, and life you actually want, not the one that just fits someone else’s timeline.

There’s something radical about deciding that you don’t have to rush. That your story is still unfolding—even when others think the page has turned.

The Truth About Energy and Motherhood (Kids After 40)

Let’s talk about the fear no one wants to say out loud:
“But won’t I be too tired?”

We assume that pregnancy over 40 means you’ll be depleted, disconnected, or just too late to fully enjoy it.

Ch-a busts that myth wide open.

“I’m almost 50 and I have more energy now than I did at 30—because I don’t rob it from myself anymore.”

She talks about being calmer, more present, and more emotionally available for her daughter because of her age—not in spite of it.

This episode gives a real, nuanced look at what kids after 40 can actually feel like when it’s on your terms.

Why You Want to Be Happy Before the Baby

This one hit home:

“Babies and family don’t make you happy. You better be whole and happy within yourself, because the baby is not the source of it.” If you’re putting your joy on hold until you “figure it all out,” let this be your reminder.

Your happiness is not in a ring, a due date, or a milestone.

It’s here. Now.

This episode invites you to build a life that feels good today—so that anything that comes next simply adds to it.
Because motherhood isn’t a fix. It’s a chapter. And you deserve to love the story before it gets there.

It’s Time to Talk About Fertility Differently

Whether you’re 29 or 49, whether you want one kid or none—this conversation matters.

It’s not just about pregnancy over 40.
It’s about autonomy. Self-respect. And the power to make decisions without panic.

It’s a love letter to the women who feel behind.
And a call-to-action for every woman to get curious about her body, her voice, and her choices.

“There’s nothing wrong with wanting a baby, but don’t let that want compromise your integrity.”

If this stirred something in you, don’t push it away. Follow it.

Let this be the moment you say: I get to take my time. I get to ask questions. I get to want what I want without apologizing for it.

Whether you’re preparing for kids after 40 or just reclaiming your power in a world full of deadlines, this episode will give you the boost, clarity, and peace you’ve been craving.

Full Transcript on After 40 Pregnancy with Ch-a Mosley

Chardét (00:00)
If you are someone who’s over 35, over 40, you know that stress and the fear that we live with. And if you’re someone who’s under, you know that you’re already feeling it now. The pressure to find a partner, the pressure to get married, the pressure to have a kid, all this stuff that we feel as women. And so this conversation is one that I wish I had been able to hear when I turned 30.

When I turned 35, I’m just glad that I got it now before 40, but honestly, if you’re older, it doesn’t matter. This is for you. I’m speaking to such an inspirational woman. She is going to be honestly, one of the biggest thought leaders in this space from her journey and from what she talks about. Her name is Chia Mosley. She is the founder of Pregnancy Over 40. She conceived naturally at 46 and delivered at 47.

This is someone who is very open about what that experience is like, and we’re gonna talk all about it. What it’s like for her being a mother now and things that she wished she would have known sooner. I’ll see you inside.

Get ready to feel good naked. I’m your host, Sade, and if you’re here right now, it means that you are ready to strip away all the crap, all the rules holding you back from feeling good in your body, in your mind, and in your life. Let’s get into it.

Ch-a (01:24)
My mission is to bring hope to women, to rewrite the narrative about having to rush to have a baby because your quote unquote clock is ticking, and to also inspire younger women to make better life choices so that, they don’t waste their time.

maybe dating the wrong people because I did some of that. So I share some of my life dating lessons and things. And two, so that they take better care of themselves. You know, there’s no guarantee of pregnancy, young or older, but we do know as we get older, the chances do decrease. But if you’re healthy, you give yourself a leg up.

Chardét (02:00)
I like that you mentioned both because I know there’s both listening and there’s also some people listening who are completely unsure if they want to have kids at multiple ages, right? And so I think having this conversation opens that up a little bit more. Can you start with your journey into motherhood? Because when I heard about it, it just really resonated and I think people listening will feel this too.

Ch-a (02:24)
For me, I, at the age of about 35, had determined that if I didn’t have a family by 40, then it just wasn’t going to happen. And I think that that idea just came through society and what things I had heard. And so at the age of 38, I get into a relationship with a nice man and I still to this day, he’s a nice man and I consider him a friend. But he never wanted to get married or have children and he was upfront about that. I justified to myself, well,

If you really wanted to have children, you would have had them already. That was one justification. Two, my mom and dad actually did not get married until I was almost 30, even though they had been together like all these years. So I do have different concepts of commitment in marriage. I don’t have any ideas that a couple has to be married to be committed because that’s what I grew up in. And my mom and dad were.

Ring no ring ceremony no ceremony and I didn’t get married until I was almost 30 so with this gentleman I said well I know that a couple doesn’t have to like you know walk down the aisle to be committed well anyway he dumped me a week about a week before my first birthday and then I was like Great, I wasted my last fertile years on a man that didn’t want to have children That’s what I thought and I just said okay. I did that

So yes, I dated in between there quite unsuccessfully. Then I met my man. Fast forward, I’m 40, I’m 43 where I just say, you know what, that’s it. I’m tired of being single. I don’t want to be single anymore. This is the year I’m meeting my guy. And two weeks later, and I wrote down what I wanted. And two weeks later, I met him just like that. And we decide that yes, if we were to get pregnant, that would be great.

but we didn’t want to do anything extraneous to make it happen. didn’t want to subject myself to IVF and he agreed. He was like, yeah, I don’t want to do anything like that. If the baby comes, it just has to come on its own. And I was like, cool. But basically, I high-five. I conceived at 45 naturally with him. And then six weeks into that pregnancy, I lost that baby. 10 months later, I conceive again with him naturally. And that’s the baby you guys see me talking about now.

Chardét (04:37)
think there’s so many things in what you shared that just completely blow out of the water all of our ideas about relationships, about motherhood, about identity. The fact that you did it this way is so, I have to tell you, is so like, it warms my heart because this is the way that I would want to do it. Love that it was, you found your person and it was, okay, we’re gonna see if it will happen and if it doesn’t happen, it doesn’t happen.

Ch-a (04:56)
Ha

Chardét (05:06)
and let’s just do it that way because I have so many friends that have done the IVF successfully and unsuccessfully. And in both cases, I’ve seen a lot of stress and a lot of relationships end.

Ch-a (05:18)
There can be a lot of pressure around trying to concede and I didn’t want our relationship to morph into that. I didn’t want the love and the fun that we were having together as a couple to get hijacked and diverted into this whole baby thing. I was very happy with he and I the way that we were. I just didn’t want to change that. And I think that if when you introduce medical appointments and medical interventions, and I don’t think that there’s anything wrong with that if that’s what a woman wants to do. But at this

point I was 45, late 44, 45. So I understood the odds and what that might mean for me, right? It’s not like I was like 35 or 34. There’s just a difference. And I looked at that right away. I knew I was like, no.

I’m not gonna be coming home sad because this one didn’t work or my hormones are all jacked up like I’m not sad today I’m not introducing anything that’s gonna start jacking with my emotions and make me feel a certain way about me you us and our future it just has to come naturally we said it we’re like if this baby wants to be with us if there’s gonna be a baby this baby has to just make use of what we have to offer I got an egg and I would joke with people all the time when they would ask me like do you want to have a baby like can you guys have babies I’d be like listen

If some being can come and find a good egg, like scrape it off the side of my uterus and make it work, he or she can have at it.

Chardét (06:40)
You could argue that your daughter was waiting. She was waiting to be born, right? Like she was waiting for that moment.

Ch-a (06:48)
So when

she’s 14 and talking about she don’t like us, I’ll be like, honey, listen, the odds of you being here are so low that this one is on you.

Chardét (06:57)
How did you feel though, because you were saying, and I don’t know if this is correct or not, so correct me if it’s wrong, it sounds like you weren’t so sure you wanted to have a family before or you just were like, I’m only going to have it if it’s before 40, before this relationship.

Ch-a (07:14)
Always wanted a family. I always imagined myself having two children at least your ideas about life starts shifting and I really like this guy and so if that was what it would take for me to be with him to let go of that why started like I said Justifying it wasn’t out Integrity thing that I did you have to have your integrity to yourself about it be real about what you really want If you know you want children

then don’t compromise yourself for the man that don’t want children. But the problem was is that I was already 38. So I was already kind of thinking about how I was probably too old anyway.

Chardét (07:55)
And that influences it. Yeah, you start to like tweak your compass a little bit thinking, well, it’s not in the cards for me, so I guess I can compromise on this, I guess.

Ch-a (08:06)
You’re the nice man. I like him. He’s fun. We’re gonna travel. We’re gonna do things. He’s gonna take me around the world. We’re gonna go scuba diving in Australia. We’re gonna go to Bali. We’re gonna go do some really cool stuff together and that sounds like a lot of fun. And yeah, and and yeah, he’s like a really cool person and we have a really good friendship on top of everything else. So yeah, let’s do it. I guess there’s no baby but I got real sad. He saw that and that’s why he dumped me. He did me a favor.

Chardét (08:29)
Do you feel like, because this was something you mentioned towards the beginning when we started talking that part of your message is helping people who are younger make choices that are smarter and aligns with fertility and what they want to do. What would you suggest or what’s the big message for you there? I’m guessing part of it is definitely stay aligned with what your morals are, what your compass is.

Ch-a (08:49)
I don’t want to use the word desperate because when I look back at that time, I don’t think I was desperate, but it is true. You do have to know what you want, but this is why I also like to raise the awareness about fertility. One of the big things that pushed me into compromising myself was thinking that I probably was too old to have a baby anyway. And there are ways that you can know, are you fertile? Are you not? And because when you go to your annual appointment or your pap smear,

What I realized is your doctors are not having these conversations with you. I looked back and there was not a single doctor that was talking to me about fertility goals other than to put me on birth control, right? But they weren’t like, as I was getting older, hey, like, do you think you want to have children? Do you know where your hormone levels are? Would you like to know? Would you like to have this conversation? This was not part of the dialogue with OBs. And so I’m trying to raise awareness with women to like start knowing where you’re at.

There’s things that women can do to be proactive about their fertility, their hormone levels, their A qualities, if they’re catching it earlier. And so we’re kind of finding things out too late, a lot of women. So I’m trying to encourage women to force these conversations with their OBs to start working with functional medicine doctors to really take deep dives into their numbers where standard medical practitioners may not so that they can.

take better care of their bodies and not drug their bodies and not intoxicate their bodies with the wrong kind of product. Hence, I bought myself some years of fertility.

Chardét (10:20)
That’s such a key point because so much of what we know about fertility, I feel like, is based on generations that were not caring for themselves in the same way, partly because they didn’t know to, partly because they were super stressed out because the world is crazy. And then also they just didn’t have the resources, like it wasn’t available. And so it is interesting to see what happens when you do.

Are you mindful about what you’re putting in your body and who you’re around as well because that stress affects you like that damages you with the wrong people.

Ch-a (10:53)
What stress does to those hormone levels and the amount of cortisol that body starts pumping and then like stress is the enemy to all things including having a baby. So that’s why I talk about it’s like mind, body and spirit. Stress is often the source of our immune system dropping.

Chardét (11:11)
Like

sometimes it really comes down to what is the stress you’re putting on your body that’s not allowing you to heal or to function? Because if you’re in that survival mode, your body is just trying to survive. It’s not going to work to create another life, of course.

Ch-a (11:25)
Panic, it’s just trying to survive. It’s not trying to create. It’s not trying to flourish. It’s not trying to grow. It’s in survival mode. And that is not how you grow or develop anything, hair, skin or baby.

Chardét (11:38)
It’s so true. Especially because this plays back into what you were saying, the pressure, right? As you get older, to have a child, imagine like that stress you’re also putting on yourself because you’re thinking, oh, I’m 35. Oh, I’m 38. I’m 40. I’m 45. Like, and it just keeps exponentially going more, especially if you haven’t found someone yet, right? To be your partner. I mean, then it’s even more stress you’re putting on yourself because you feel so behind.

Ch-a (12:05)
And that’s also part of my message too. And I’m glad you brought that up because it’s the math. Okay, well if I’m 35 now and I’m single, so I have to meet the guy, then we have to date for, I don’t know, and then we have to get engaged, and then we have to get married, and then we have to buy a house, and then we have to still blah, blah. then so that’s another seven years, and then I’ll be too old. But I’m like, listen, I met my man at 44. When there is no BS and everybody is open and honest and mature, there actually doesn’t have

have to be a lot of time interjected into things. There doesn’t have to be. You know, for me to have met him when I met him and to be able to have a baby and have a family and comfortably so is a beautiful thing, but that’s also part of the messaging. And again, it’s not about rushing, but it is about being mature and recognizing maturity, recognizing what trustfulness looks like in somebody and honesty looks like in somebody. And I was able to see these things and be comfortable with him very rapidly.

Chardét (13:04)
see some of the amazing comments that you get and people seem really drawn to you but they’re also people that have really interesting stories finding their own journey through motherhood. I feel like you really attract those kind of people. What do you think about this is totally a huge shift in pivot right now but if I don’t ask you this it’s gonna be like everyone’s gonna be like why didn’t you ask her this? What’s it like?

Ch-a (13:18)
I do.

Chardét (13:28)
being an older mother, how do you feel about it? Like any of the stereotypes people say are true. Do you feel like there’s anything that’s more challenging or anything that’s easier? Like I think it’s good to hear from someone who can give a perspective fully versus like all the fears, et cetera, that we hear.

Ch-a (13:44)
first time mom, right? So it’s not I don’t have a comparison to when I was a mom when I was 28 versus today, right? But I know who I was when I was younger. I am so unbothered by anything that she does. And I mean, it can be catastrophic. One day we’re at the park and she fell like off the off the ledge. It was like five feet. I took my eyes off of her. She felt like five feet off a ledge and she was on the ground just wailing. The calmness.

that I’m able to exhibit with her even in the most frightful of certain circumstances is infinitely different than when I was younger. My first reaction is never to panic. My first reaction is to always just be present and remain calm, assess the situation and handle calmly. I do not interject any drama. These are things that when I was younger, I just know that I wouldn’t have had the fortitude to do. I take better care of myself. So interestingly, next positive point is I have more energy now.

I’m almost 50, I’ll be 50 in December. I have more energy now than I did when I was in my upper 20s, lower 30s. And it’s not because I can see that I actually have more energy. I just don’t rob it from myself like I used to. I understand, you know, about uppers, you know, like I used to drink Red Bull and Advil to party all night, right? Cause I lived in Las Vegas. So that became my go-to thing, but that was messing with my adrenaline.

my adrenals, right? So then I would have a hard time sleeping. So then I would take NyQuil to help myself sleep. so I was constantly like an up and down and pain management headaches all the time because I was dehydrated and I didn’t know. ⁓ physically I was not having a good time of running my body. Where now I’m all into my supplement. So my body is not on these things. I have energy for her. And also we were able to go down to one income.

Having to do that and deal with the BS of work and then drive in traffic and this and that, like those things are innately stressful with or without a baby. And then you have the guilt, like you didn’t spend enough time with your baby and then you’re tired and he wears the day and blah, blah, blah. I don’t have all those things. And I think that because we were older, we were able to make these decisions. Are things tighter? Sure. Things are tighter, but now I’m doing this. And so now I’m starting to make money from this and great. Things probably be even better.

Chardét (15:56)
When people talk about motherhood, think about as you age, like they’re just looking at one variable, which is age. So as you age, your energy goes down. But then like, what about all the things that you mentioned where you know yourself better, you have more patience, you’re more present, you have resources where you can stay home and you can be with her and you can create your own business. And I feel like

all that stuff and you’re not also like you said taking the uppers and the downers. I did all that stuff too and it really is different.

Ch-a (16:28)
That’s right. You have to set yourself up for it. I’m mothering in a very unstressful way. It’s funny, now I do kind of work long hours, a little bit I put her to bed and then I go back to work again, but it’s on what I’m passionate about and it’s in my yoga pants.

Chardét (16:47)
That alone gives an extra boost of energy.

Ch-a (16:50)
put on lipstick for podcasts. don’t have to like constantly be fanning over myself just to get out the door, you know.

Chardét (16:57)
And it looks good on the podcast right now for people who just hear the audio, but the lipstick looks good. So now we’ve like dispelled the myth around the energy, which is one that I’m glad people are hearing. I’ve always thought this too. What about for in terms of like mom community? Because I think this is something people worry about as well. It’s something I’ve thought about too. I’m 39, still don’t have kids have thought about this. Like, what’s it going to be like if I’m around all these moms who are

you 10, 15 years younger than me. I don’t know. Is it different? Do you just find your people? How’s it been for you? ⁓

Ch-a (17:31)
people

find her. One, like I was in a birthing class and there’s three of us moms that our babies were born days apart in the same hospital. And one mom, I think is like 29. The other one is like 37 and then I’m now 49. We bond over the babies. You just find different things and one of them is a business owner. So we’re able to talk about, you know, like, how’s your Shopify store doing? And how do do this? And how’s this going? now, you know, you

All you have to do is just find common points of reality. But I’m also surrounded by so many women. I had to take a look at it. I’m surrounded by a lot of women who’ve had babies after 40. I didn’t know it, but I live like in a town home community, right? So in everybody, it’s very social, very friendly. There’s a lady across the street, she’s 76, but she had all three of her babies after the age of 40, between 42 and 45, I think she told me. So she’s one and she is a single lady out here driving, washing her own car, doing her own thing, whatever.

Then there’s another lady down the row. had her two children after the age of 40. Then I have another good girlfriend of mine. She had her baby at 41. Then I have another girlfriend. had, and we all are natural conceptions with no issues with our pregnancies, no issues with our baby. Then another community friend that I got through my fiance, she had her baby after the age of 40.

Chardét (18:46)
One message is yes, there are gonna be people who are doing it later like whoever’s listening to versus what your age is. And I think that’s true for friendships in general. Like I have friends who are way younger than me, but we’re not talking about that. Like they’re at the same stage of life. They might not be the same age, but we’re doing the same stuff.

Ch-a (19:04)
Absolutely,

absolutely. It is like I think that people really need to Stop worrying about differences like right now. We live in a very polarized society And the other thing too is I don’t particularly feel like I act old when I’m at the park We are at the park. We’re on the swing mommy’s on the slide. I’m climbing I look at it as such an opportunity to have good fun to be young again myself to look at life through my baby’s lens like I’m not sitting there just

on the bench scrolling through my phone waiting for it to be over. I’m with her. I actually have a good time. I don’t also feel like I act old so it makes me easy to identify with as well. Like I’m not like, my leg, my neck, my back. Now on that point, I will tell you that my knees are not the same knees. They’re not the same knees. Yeah, like I’m carrying her. She dropped something on the ground like inside of my, ⁓ shit. Okay.

Chardét (19:57)
I don’t know I had nieces and nephews from 26 and I felt that way so

Ch-a (20:04)
Right? Like maybe every mother feels this way anyway. You know, I don’t know, but.

Chardét (20:08)
So I’ve got two final questions for you and this is one that I think is most interesting to see what your answer will be, which is we’ve talked a lot about things to think about when you’re younger and you know that you want children or you’re thinking about it. You’ve talked about what it’s like being older. You’ve talked about the benefits. What do you think is the one thing that you wish every woman knew before having a child at any age? Like not even age specific. What’s something that you think maybe you knew it and it

confirmed it later or maybe you just learned it once you did have your daughter.

Ch-a (20:43)
The one thing that I wish that women understood is that babies and family do not make you happy. I get a lot of comments from women that they’re crying, like they see my message and it brings them hope. And the one thing that I can say, I was never crying about not having a man and not having a baby. I was always happy and content with my life. Now that’s not to say that I didn’t want it to be single forever. And I think…

If you feel a void, it’s probably not because you don’t have a baby and because you don’t have a man. Those tears are something else and you need to get yourself fully happy and fully content with your life and yourself as it is. Being sleep deprived at night, having to stay up all night because your baby isn’t feeling good. Maybe you’re at home with the baby all day by yourself. Like there’s so many things about being a mom.

in being a wife and running a household that actually are not joyful. They’re not. They’re work. It’s just a different kind of work. Now, of course I’m happy. Like this is a very like fulfilling experience, but it is not the source of my happiness. And don’t mistake it that it will be.

to whole because a baby really just takes. I mean, I did a post about this. was like, you understand, like when a baby comes home, you don’t even know like the nights you’ll be up, like your baby can’t even fart. Can’t swallow the milk from your breast, barely can barely latch on is halfway blind. It is a take, take, take, take, take. And only later can your baby like, I don’t know, two, three months actually even smile back at you.

Your happiness comes from within. I’m not saying that babies don’t trade with you, right? Like they do, they trade in the ways that they can, but it takes time. It takes time. Like now, yeah, my girl is two, she’ll bring the comb and she’ll comb my hair. And I know, she’s trying to help. But these moments, they’re so small in the midst of all the destruction and things like that. You better be whole and happy within yourself, because the baby is not the source of it. I am so sorry. And neither is your man. You need to be happy for yourself as yourself.

Especially if you want to meet a good man, don’t be out there sad and crying. I always say, well, what kind of man are you going to meet in that condition? I met my man when I was at the peak of happiness. I was having a good time at work. I was making good money. I had good girlfriends. I’m living up the beach. got my cute little girl, bachelorette pad, nice swanky gym. Everything is swimming. Everything is humming along. He met me when I was at my peak of happiness. ⁓

People can connect with me on Instagram. I am on TikTok. I am on YouTube. And in short order, I will be launching my own community. Existing moms over 40 that need a community, ladies who are hopeful, and even just the young ladies that need a safe place where they can understand that they don’t have to feel rushed into the process. And then there is the Pregnancy Over 40 website as well.

Follow me on Instagram at Pregnancy Over 40, F-O-R-T-Y, the full word, Pregnancy Over 40. And that is the same handle across Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube, and also PregnancyOver40.com.

Yes, and I appreciate you having me here and for you creating a safe space for women and various dialogues about the things that we are going through out there. It’s a woman has to bear and do a lot. We really do have to bear and do a lot. And there’s a lot of expectations placed on women and you’ve created a safe space and a beautiful podcast yourself. So thank you for your work and your persistence and longevity on your journey. And I wish you the best.

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