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Stop Using ChatGPT as Your Therapist

Topics: Relationship Advice, Dating Advice, ChatGPT Relationship Prompts, AI and Relationships

Can ChatGPT really help with relationship advice, dating advice and hard conversations?

Ever asked ChatGPT to help you with your partner, your crush, or your mom? You’re not alone—and this episode might just shift how you see it forever.

I sit down to test how good AI really is at solving your personal problems—and spoiler: it fails in 3 surprisingly human ways

If you’ve ever opened ChatGPT in the middle of a Tinder text draft or an emotional spiral, this episode will make you rethink what advice you’re really getting.

From awkward work conflicts to pressure from family to mixed messages in dating, I asked AI for help. And the results? Some were helpful. A lot were red flags dressed as therapy.

What it gave me revealed more about us than about tech.

TIMESTAMPS

00:49 – Why We’re Asking AI for Relationship Advice
03:05 – Can ChatGPT Handle Your Dating Drama
07:40 – Why ChatGPT Therapy Prompts Might Be Misleading
14:18 – Emotional Granularity and Personal Growth with AI
20:08 – Rethinking Hard Conversations with ChatGPT

Listen in and discover:

The Validation Glitch Why AI often just reflects your emotions back to you—and why that can feel comforting, but misleading.
The Better Way to Ask: How to talk to AI in an emotionally smarter way—and actually get clarity.
Stop Outsourcing Self-Worth: Why “Why does this always happen to me?” is the wrong question—and what to ask instead.

This episode won’t shame you for asking AI for advice. But it will change how you use it from now on, to start bringing in self-awareness, INNER WORK and critical thinking.

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What If the Relationship Advice You’re Getting Is Just a Reflection of You?

One of the most surprising things we’re learning about AI (and what this week’s Feel Good Nakd episode explores in-depth) is this:

ChatGPT doesn’t give you the truth. It gives you what you want to hear.

When you’re emotionally charged, confused, or craving clarity, that can feel like comfort. But the truth? That comfort might be clouding your judgment.

Because AI isn’t neutral.
It’s optimized to be helpful, polite, and validating.

So if you type, “He was such a jerk to me, right?” — you’re not going to get back, “Actually, have you considered your tone?”

You’re going to get, “You deserve better. You were being vulnerable.”

It sounds emotionally intelligent.
But it lacks your full story.

How You Ask AI and ChatGPT Shapes What You Get

Here’s something that might change how you use AI forever:

The more emotional baggage you put into your prompt, the more distorted the advice becomes.

When you ask a question through the lens of frustration, heartbreak, or resentment, you’re inviting AI to echo that energy back to you.

But when you ask with clarity—like a journalist reporting the facts—it has space to respond with insight.

Take this dating example:

“He always watches my stories and messages when he’s in town, but never makes time to see me. Why is he doing this?”

vs.

“I’m noticing a pattern where someone gives me digital attention but doesn’t follow through in person. What does that indicate about the level of emotional investment?”

One question invites drama.
The other invites perspective.

That’s the shift that turns AI from a validation machine into a reflection tool.
It’s a shift rooted in personal growth.

You Can’t Bypass Self-Awareness to Solve Relationship Issues

Here’s the truth: If you don’t know your patterns, your wounds, your default settings—AI can’t either.

ChatGPT doesn’t magically fill in the gaps of your emotional history. It can only work with what you give it. And if what you give it is reactive, one-sided, or lacking context, you’re getting advice from a funhouse mirror.

This matters when we’re talking about:

Setting boundaries with your mom
Communicating with a partner who doesn’t pull their weight
Trying to decide if someone’s attention is genuine or breadcrumbing

Real relationship advice takes more than a good sentence structure.
It requires knowing the full dynamic—yours and theirs.

And no matter how helpful a ChatGPT therapy prompt feels in the moment, it can’t do the deep work of understanding your attachment patterns, your needs, or your blind spots.

AI Isn’t the Enemy—It’s Just Not Your Inner Voice

Let’s be clear: this blog isn’t telling you to delete your ChatGPT app.

AI can be incredibly useful for reframing, brainstorming, and helping you soften or clarify tough messages.

But here’s the thing:

It’s a tool, not a therapist.
It’s a mirror, not a manual.

You still have to bring your own emotional intelligence to the table.
You still have to do the pause.
The reflection.
The honest check-in:

“Do I want clarity—or comfort?”
“Do I want growth—or reassurance?”

These aren’t easy questions. But they’re essential if you’re serious about personal growth and navigating emotionally complex spaces with intention.

What’s Actually Helpful When Using ChatGPT for Relationship or Dating Advice?

This week’s episode shares some very real moments—texts rewritten, emotional misfires, and ways that AI both helped and misled. But what’s most powerful is the shift in how you use it.

Here’s what works better:

Strip emotional charge from the prompt. Keep it factual.
Acknowledge both sides of the situation (not just your own).
Ask for feedback or reflection—not for someone to tell you you’re right.
Use AI as a writing companion, not a decision-maker.

You’re not weak for needing help wording things.
You’re human.

But when you start outsourcing your entire sense of worth, clarity, or decision-making process, you lose the very thing that makes your voice powerful: your self-trust.

You Already Know What to Do in Your Relationship or Situation—You Just Want Someone Else to Say It

There’s a moment in the episode where you’re invited to pause and ask yourself:

“What’s one emotional truth I’ve been trying to outsource—when deep down, I already know?”

That’s the takeaway we don’t say enough in the wellness space.
You don’t always need more advice.
You need to trust the quiet voice that already knows.

So if you’re turning to ChatGPT for answers on how to leave, how to ask for more, how to be seen, or how to feel safer… pause.

You can still ask for input.
But don’t give away your authority.

Final Words: From Emotional Outsourcing to Inner Anchoring

Whether you’re navigating a tricky boundary with family or second-guessing a romantic situation, it’s tempting to want the “perfect” thing to say. And AI offers fast comfort. But fast comfort can’t replace emotional clarity.

Use the tools.
But stay grounded in your own voice.

Because personal growth isn’t about getting every answer right.
It’s about learning to ask better questions—and listening to the truth underneath them.

🎧 Want to hear the full story? Listen to the full episode!

Questions answered in this self-help podcast episode

Can ChatGPT help with tough conversations in relationships?
How accurate is ChatGPT when giving dating advice?
Should I use AI to write texts to my partner or crush?
Is it okay to rely on ChatGPT for emotional support?
How can I use ChatGPT for hard conversations with family?
Why does my relationship advice from ChatGPT feel off?
How do I make sure ChatGPT gives me honest feedback in dating?

Full Transcript on AI Relationship Adivce & Dating Advice with Chardét Ryel

Chardet Ryel (00:00.078)
This is probably the episode you don’t want to hear if you are someone who is going to chat to BT to ask for a relationship advice, personal self-help advice, to have it write a text for you for someone you’re dating or you want to date. It’s going to be the episode that makes you rethink this stuff. So as much as you probably don’t want to listen, it’s also a really good idea to do it.

Chardet Ryel (00:31.98)
Get ready to feel good naked. I’m your host, Chardét, and if you’re here right now, it means that you are ready to strip away all the crap, all the rules holding you back from feeling good in your body, in your mind, and in your life. Let’s get into it.

Chardet Ryel (00:49.305)
So was shocking to me when I had several friends, this was maybe a year ago this trend started, telling me that they were using it to basically replace some therapy sessions. And I didn’t know what to think, right? I was like, okay, I mean, I guess it can give you some advice that’s helpful, it’s on demand. And then I started hearing from more people who were using it to analyze texts that they got.

from people they wanted to date or to write a text because maybe they wanted to make sure what they wanted to say came out better. I got super intrigued by this and I thought, how good is AI really at analyzing you and your relationships, writing text, writing emails? How good is it at solving the problems that you are feeling stuck at personally?

So this episode, we are gonna go through actual prompts, case studies, stories related to everything from dealing with your mom, to your colleague, to your Tinder date, and what happens when you start inputting data a little bit differently. I’ll share some big ethical red flags in this episode when it comes to using AI for your personal therapy. And I’ll also be sharing some personal reflections on

of how we can make this work a little bit because I can see some advantages and you’ll see in this episode there are definitely instances when it is helpful. So this all started with a very close friend. She was feeling obligated as if she had to go to her boyfriend’s friend’s dinner event. She really didn’t want to go. She felt like she didn’t get along with any of those people. It felt very cliquey. She felt

that it was almost a waste of her time. And she was also feeling a little resentful because he hadn’t gone to the events with her friends. She wanted to express to him how she didn’t wanna go. So she wrote the text with Chachi BT and she showed it to me. And immediately my thought was it communicated her feelings really well. It left out his, it left out him entirely, it left out the bigger context and it reinforced

Chardet Ryel (03:04.889)
her biases. Now this is someone I know really well so I could see that. And so instead I said, you know, why don’t we tweak this instead? Think about from his perspective, what’s a way that you could communicate how you’re feeling without bringing up past baggage of him not following through? I admit it’s important to talk of course of those things, but how could we say that a little differently? And so she changed the text, she sent it to him, no issues. ChachiBT didn’t come up with that.

But it’s not just her. So there’s a lot of people that are using ChatGPT for more than this to help them write breakup text, to process cheating, even to rehearse how to tell their mom that they don’t want kids. Like this is so much stuff that you’re sending into the AI and here’s why it’s a problem. Three reasons we’re gonna go through and I’m gonna give you examples of what happens when you shift a little bit how you talk to AI.

So first reason why this is complicated. People bring baggage and emotions into chat. You’re not looking for neutrality most of the time. You don’t want an objective opinion no matter what you say. You want validation. And it is very much programmed, especially right now, to give that to you. As an example, because I was combing the internet, looking at all the Reddit threads, everything to see who’s done this. And there was a woman who asked ChachiBeaty to…

analyzed a series of emails that she had between her and her partner. And she said, can you tell me if I’m being passive aggressive here? And the AI said, no, you’re being vulnerable. You’re slightly communicating what’s an issue. It’s emotionally intelligent. And then her partner fed the same email into his chat with his chat history and said, is she being passive aggressive here? And it said, yes.

There are elements of passive aggressiveness here. It’s the same exact data. What’s different is the lens, his and hers. So that makes you think, right? How much is what you’re asking and the advice you’re getting really an independent third party versus just a mirror?

Chardet Ryel (05:16.431)
Now I’m gonna give you an example because I was like, we gotta go in and see how this works. So I wanted to see if you have a colleague at work and you’re having a conflict with them, they’re not doing their amount of work at the job. And I said this into chat, she’d be like, I said, I’m always doing the extra work for my colleague in the office. I pick up all the slack and so many times she has let me down or not been an equal partner in our projects. I need to tell her now to change this for the next big.

client project. Write a Slack message from me to send to her. The AI responds, hey name, with the new client project coming up, I wanted to quickly flag that I really need us to split the work more evenly this time. I picked up extra pieces in the past and it’s been tough to keep up. Totally happy to collaborate. Just want to make sure we both stay on top of our parts. Now on surface level, you might think this is a great response. It communicates my problem.

It doesn’t seem to do it in a very aggressive way, but I can even read small notes of passive aggressiveness in this, especially if someone’s reading it and already they’ve had issues with you on that. And it’s also not really looking at that person’s issues at all. You why is this colleague not showing up at work with you? You haven’t addressed that at all in your input. So what I did is I reworked this. said, okay, if I want objective,

answers, I have to give an objective prompt. So instead I said this, no baggage here. I have a colleague who is struggling to keep up her part of a project right now with a client. I’m doing a lot of the research and creation. I need to write a Slack message to get her to become aware of this and show up, make it soft, but clear. So here I have only stated the facts. I’ve also tried to pull in some sensitivity for her. And here is what it gave me. Hey.

I just wanted to check in on the project. We’re getting into a pretty full on phase with our client and I’ve been handling most of the research and creation at the moment. I know things are hectic, so I wanted to flag it early so we can rebalance. Can we touch base to make sure we’re both more aligned on next steps and workload? Notice how there is no emotional charge here. I’ve also said, I know things are hectic, so I’m acknowledging that other person. When you are putting stuff into ChatGBT from your…

Chardet Ryel (07:40.107)
own lens and your own perspective and all your emotions, you are not doing that. Now let’s give another example because I was just thinking, you know, what are the other contexts where this will work? So in this one, it’s about a potential person becoming a more serious person you could date. So here’s the first input. I’m going to do it with no baggage, just the facts and a little bit of my emotions, but not a lot.

I feel like this guy really likes me. He always watches my Instagram stories and he sends me messages when he’s in town, but he never seems to be available. What’s going on? Now already some of you are like, I know what’s going on. And the Reddit people had a lot to say. This is what Chachapiti gave me back. It said he always watches my stories. That means passive attention. He messages when he’s in town, sporadic, not dependable availability.

He never seems to be available. Inconsistent investment in you. That is a great answer. I can see that actually I probably shouldn’t waste my time with this person, but here’s what happens when you bring your baggage into the chat.

This guy definitely likes me. He always watches my Instagram stories and he does everything he to see me when he’s in town, rearranging appointments and all of it. But it’s hard for us to be together outside of that because he has such a high stress job. I know this person is meant to be my husband because we have so much compatibility and I feel safe with him. Because he lives far away, we can’t have an ongoing relationship. But I’d like your thoughts on what’s going on.

Now notice I have fed all of my delusions is a hard word, but you know, I’ve fed my delusions into this and I have taken all of the excuses he’s probably given me his job living far away. I’ve put them all into this. This is what AI told me. AI says he always watches my Instagram stories. That means he’s actively tuned into your life and he is likely emotionally invested.

Chardet Ryel (09:53.881)
If you’re just listening, you can’t see my mouth drop here. He does everything he can to see me when he’s in town. That means there’s intention, action, and pursuit. Possibly long distance situational obstacle is the only thing in the way. It could also be mismatch availability, lifestyle, or emotional readiness. Now notice here, it is bringing up a red flag. It is saying, well,

You guys might not be matched on your lifestyle and your emotional readiness. However, if I’m someone who is so gung-ho on this person, I already have it in my mind that this is gonna be someone I’m gonna be with. I am not going to read that information that this AI sent me, where 15 % of it is red flag. I’m gonna read the rest, the 85 % that said, hey, this is great. Maybe you just need to wait a little.

Can you see how this creates a problem? So what is going on here is input bias. Your emotional framing of a situation is going to distort the answer that AI gives you because AI, especially chat to PT is optimized for helpfulness and also likeability. That is a dangerous thing. And even Sam Altman has said that, you in the latest version, there’s this

weird sycophant, this tendency to please you that it will say in almost anything you do, even your weaknesses, it will glorify them up. So imagine if you’re looking for validation, you are going to get it. And if you say something like, am I being passive aggressive? It’s going to reflect back what you are hoping to hear. Now, some of you at this point might say, yeah, but it’s also given me answers that I didn’t want to hear.

And if that’s the case, you need to keep listening because I’m going to go through why it’s different for you. But to wrap up this part, AI right now, current version at the time of recording is going to give you the answers most likely to delight the person asking the question because then you will keep using it. And I think the best way to sum this up, it’s a bit crude, but if it’s, there was one person on Reddit who said quote unquote here,

Chardet Ryel (12:06.233)
I think one of the problems that people run into asking ChachiPT for therapy is they express their emotions in the chat. Like, he was mean to me and he’s a jerk. No. If you’re looking for a logical next step, you need to report shit like it is in the news. This happened, this then this then this. That is summed up so perfectly. If you want to really use it, you’re gonna basically use it as a tool and not as a therapist here.

Now let’s bring this back to you here. Think about when you almost texted someone something emotional and you wanted a second opinion. Now imagine that you typed it into ChatYPT and you said, I want to say this, what do you think? And this is the question to really ask yourself. Would you want the honest response or the kind of one? Do you want clarity or do you want comfort?

Do you want someone to say you’re right because you are right about the situation or because it will make you feel better? Because AI can easily become the friend who always makes you feel better but never tells you the real truth. Now, next part here, for those of you who have maybe had some success in your advice, for emotionally charged topics, things that have a lot of emotions like we talked about, the

The of relationship and communication advice you get from AI is going to depend on the level of self-awareness of the user. You only really get clarity if you’re asking questions already knowing yourself and being honest. Basically, if I don’t know my attachment issues, my problems, the sources of my trauma, AI won’t either.

There’s this idea of emotional granularity. So emotional granularity is the ability to identify and label your emotions precisely. If you have high granularity, meaning you really understand your emotions and what’s going on, you can usually make better decisions. But that also results in a tool like AI, because if you can give it more insight into your mind, like really understanding yourself, your shortcomings here.

Chardet Ryel (14:17.846)
This is not necessarily the baggage now. This is being real with who you are and context. It can help you more. So for example, if you put into AI, I’m sad. It’s going to give you one response versus I’m feeling unseen in my relationship is going to give you much more nuanced guidance. Emotional granularity sharpens your results. And this is the thing where you’re not going to get more.

emotional granularity, more self-awareness by using just AI. You’re going to have to dive deeper, sometimes on your own, therapists, somatic work, but we gotta go deeper here. Take a moment before we keep going and think about an issue you’ve been facing with your family, your work, colleagues, a partner, a date, your kids.

First, tell me how would you express it right now in two sentences without thinking? You can say it out loud or say it in your head. Don’t think about how it should sound, just say, what’s the issue?

Chardet Ryel (15:25.002)
What are the emotions and the patterns that you have that you are bringing into that conflict because it is never just one person? What are the things that you’re bringing into it?

Chardet Ryel (15:40.138)
This leads naturally into the third problem about chachi bt or any AI being your therapist or the friend that you cry on. AI can’t handle the nuance of both your background and the second person in the dynamic. So it’s not going to reflect your unique history or that of the person who is in the conflict that you’re with unless you provide it. So on one level.

You don’t want to put too much emotion in it because you’re going to distort the advice you get back. On another level, you have to really understand who you are, which is what we talked about, your shortcomings. And then here, you have to really give it both sides of the story. So I, of course, put some inputs in, in different ways to show you what this looks like. So first example, let’s say you have a friend that is no longer very emotionally supportive and you’re struggling with something.

I have been on both sides of this, the friend who was not really helping and the friend who was struggling. So here is no context. I’m not giving any information beyond my lens. And I’m also doing it as someone who’s not super self-aware or aware of my friend. So I say this, I have a friend who I am always there for, but she doesn’t seem to be there for me. I’m going through a tough phase at work right now and I just want to talk to her about it.

but she avoids me and I don’t know what to do. What text can I send her? AI says this, hey, I’ve been feeling a little lonely lately, especially with how stressful work’s been. I noticed when I tried to reach out, you seem a bit distant. I’m not upset, I just really value our friendship and needed someone to talk to. Now, at surface level, this is okay. You know, it’s not.

I think when people get answers they like on AI, they like them because they don’t have a strong emotional charge to them. So this is definitely better than what you would write when you’re mad. But I want to give you an example of how much better this can be when you really give context. Let’s say this friend has just gone through her own tough situation at work. She’s moved to a new city. She’s feeling so overwhelmed and exhausted. I know she’s been there for me, but right now,

Chardet Ryel (17:59.222)
I need her to be there for me even more. And I know I haven’t been great because my attention is on my own issues, but how can we solve this? What can we do? AI says, hey, I know we’ve been going through a lot and I’ve shown up for you like I usually would. And I haven’t shown up for you like I usually would. I’m sorry for that. I miss our connection and I really care. Even if I’ve been quiet, I’d love to find a way to be there for each other. Even if it’s just for short check-ins or sending each other a bad day emoji when it’s too much to talk.

I know we both care deeply. I just wanted to say that out loud. This is an incredibly emotionally mature text that lets someone know I understand their situation and I’m giving them an easy way to reconnect. Just send me an emoji. This would have a much more profound impact than the one before. So you see how context is everything.

Now let’s give you another example. This one is using AI to help you with hard conversations. Again, we want to shift it away from you just blank it asking for advice to you giving context and critically thinking through it and using it as a mirror. So here’s my first input for a situation where a mom is pressuring someone to have kids and they’re tired of the conversation. No context. I’m having issues with my mom and I really want to tell her it bothers me when she brings up me having kids, but she doesn’t listen.

What text can I send to help? AI says, Hey mom, I want to share something important. When you bring up me having kids, it feels like my choices or pace aren’t being respected. I know it might come from love or excitement, but it adds pressure and it makes me feel like I’m not being seen for where I actually am in my life. I’d really appreciate it if we could take a pause on that topic for now. Again, there’s nothing horrible about this.

It doesn’t really address anything though from the mom’s side and you have to remember in communication there are two people. So this might seem great to you because your whole truth is told here but for it to really land it needs to tell the other person’s truth as well.

Chardet Ryel (20:08.96)
So here’s what happened when I gave more context. Let’s go deeper with this text. In this example, let’s say that the mom is worried about never meeting grandchildren because she isn’t in perfect health. She wants her daughter also to be taken care of. Asking about kids is a way for her to understand what’s happening. Write the text now that would reflect this side, but also honor the woman’s need to not chat about it anymore. We’re bringing in both sides. AI says, hey mom.

I’ve been thinking about our conversations around kids and I want to share something that’s been on my heart. I know those questions come from love and maybe even fear. But for me, those conversations have started to feel heavy. Not because I don’t understand why you’re asking, but because they bring up pressure and emotions I’m not ready to explain or process right now. What I need most is space.

Not distance from you, but space around this topic so I can move through it in my own time without feeling I need to have answers. I hope you can trust that when I’m ready to share more, I will. This is a great emotional response because I have brought into it the mom side, the woman side. I have acknowledged that we’ll stay connected. I’ll keep you updated. You’ve got fear.

but hey, let’s honor my boundary. Now I’m not saying in every dynamic this is gonna be enough. That’s the other side of using AI. Some family dynamics, it can’t be solved with a text message. But you can see how we start moving away from it being your therapist to it being more of a tool. You are bringing in self-awareness, you are bringing in context, you are not just not critically thinking and throwing something in there. And this brings us to our

Final reason why you gotta use AI differently if you’re looking at it for dating or relationships. It’s good for analyzing data. It can definitely tell you why something is happening and point out patterns, but you have to be careful about adding perspective. Here’s another example I found online. One user said, my wife and I are arguing over tiny decisions and I put our argument into chat GPT. It refined for me our different styles. I’m more impulsive.

Chardet Ryel (22:29.514)
And she goes over everything again and again until she feels comfortable. We still fight over making small decisions, but now I understand why. So this person had actually input conversations with him and his wife. He didn’t actually go in and just say, Hey, this is happening. He put in the data and he was able to understand patterns that can be helpful if it’s supplementary, not if it’s the only one. AI is not built to heal your inner child.

It’s there to sort patterns, analyze data, reflect structure of things. So the more clean, unbiased, rich input you give it, the more helpful it is going to actually become. Pattern seeker, it’s not a truth seeker. Chat-chip-t doesn’t understand emotion, okay? It responds when emotion is implied based on the patterns of your language. So the way you’re writing something is going to influence the emotion that it puts in.

If you put a scenario in there with less emotional distortion, like I showed you before, know, putting in less of your, for example, the thinking about the message to the guy who’s following you on Instagram, it can help you spot things like your repeating behaviors, imbalanced communication. Are you doing more of the effort? It can find misaligned expectations. This person clearly wants this and you want this.

And it can also help you see what are you actually doing versus what you think you’re doing. So the more neutral the data, the clearer the pattern. The more baggage you bring, the more it reflects back on the answers and the narrative you get, not necessarily reality. And I know that that’s a tough distinction because we’ve talked about how we don’t want to bring our emotional baggage, but we do need to bring context.

And that is a very difficult line to walk and it’s something that someone who is only emotionally mature can do. And that is where you start to do the work on your own. Because again and again, like we said throughout this episode, when your emotion clouds the prompt, your clarity gets lost. If your prompt starts with things like, why does this always happen to me? Was I being too much? He said this, do you think he loves me?

Chardet Ryel (24:50.592)
You know, something that I learned when I was first becoming a coach years ago for fitness nutrition behavior change is be very careful about the way you ask questions because it will influence how people respond to you. So I would say things like, what’s happening with the nutrition week or what’s happening with the meals this week? I wouldn’t say, Hey, is everything going great with the meals this week? Because that might prompt them to lie.

Or it might prompt them to say, yeah, it’s going horrible and get them down on themselves. Objective clean questions lead to more data. And so this is why the more raw data you can feed it, the more valuable insight. I noticed this as well. For example, when I use ChatGPT to help me with outlines for podcasts, if I just say, hey, here’s my idea, make an outline, it’s not usually very good.

If I take the time to create my notes and fill in the structure and give context, and then I say, make an outline, it’s really great. So for example, let’s say you have a boss that’s being dismissive of you. He’s not really hearing your perspective or letting you pitch or whatever it is. And instead of you going to ChachiBT and saying, hey, my boss is dismissive, tell me why. If you instead say, hey, here’s this email chain, let me give you the background, know, limit your emotional baggage.

What do you think? What do you notice here? You can say things like, here’s our last five conversations or emails. What do you notice about our dynamic? Again, this is bringing back to that neutral questions I talked about when I learned coaching. Neutral questions tell you more. Now all of this.

full episode, what I wanted to help you do is move away if you’ve been tempted or if you’ve been considering from using AI to be your therapist, really to not depend on it that you can use it to help you clarify things. You saw how that can be helpful, but not to validate them and also using it as one tool, not the only one. Use it as a mirror, not a manual. So I want to leave you with these questions.

Chardet Ryel (26:58.58)
What’s one emotional truth you’ve been trying to outsource, friends or AI, but deep down, you already know what to do?

What would it look like if you stopped asking for someone or something to confirm your inner wisdom and your worth and your direction? Yes, sometimes we need clarity, objective opinions, but sometimes too we are leaning so hard on other people and tools and things outside of ourselves because we don’t trust ourselves.

Now, if you want to go deeper into specifically the dating side of this, there’s an episode, episode 309 called Why We Keep Choosing the Wrong Person, where I’m speaking to Mariana Moreno on creating emotional safety, self-worth, clarity. I think it’s an amazing one to listen to next. Episode 309, Why We Keep Choosing the Wrong Person. If you want to get a little bit more clarity, that is not just from AI.

And I also want to say here, I think this could be a really interesting follow-up series, some other episodes on this. So find me on Instagram, it’s Sharday. You can see it in the show notes as well, or the Feel Good Naked website. And let me know what is your situation or the input that you want to ask ChachiBT. And I will see if I can give a…

stronger, more nuanced, richer one for you and how we can start to reframe it. I am serious about this because I think we can definitely together make this work a little bit better. If you found this episode helpful, please share it with anyone you think that it could help as well and leave a review if you enjoyed it, if you found some ahas here.

Chardet Ryel (28:45.666)
Please let me know, please give back that energy, share. It takes one second for you even to just rate it. Even if you don’t even write anything else, I would super appreciate it. And I hope that these episodes continue to give you direction and support. And I will see you in the next one.

Follow Feel Good Naked in your favorite listening app. And if you’ve enjoyed the lessons that you have found here, check out my book, Seven Steps to Feel Good Naked, Health and Body Confidence Without Dieting. I guide you through how to create gentle nutrition.

movement that works for you, self-care you can do even when you’re busy. This is how you make a roadmap to help without all the struggle. You can find a link to the book in the show notes, or you can go to feelgoodnaked.com, Naked Without the E.

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